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What is Fisting?

Fisting is also known as handballing. It involves the insertion of the hand
and sometimes the forearm into the anal canal, the rectum and sometimes the
descending and even transverse colons.

Are many guys into this?

You'd be surprised. Quite a few guys are into fisting, whether they're giving it, getting it, or both. Still more guys are turned on by the idea, have experiemented, or plan to.

In fact, our own (MWP) survey of men prior to the Up Yours! Forum (Nov., 2001) on anal sex and health, we found some surprising results!

20% of the guys said they have fantasized about being fisted

22% said they had fantasized about fisting someone

5% said they have been fisted

20% said they have fisted someone!

So what's there to know?

Fisting requires extensive preparation, both physical and mental. Contrary
to popular belief, fisting doesn't have to hurt at all. Pain signals that your
ass isn't ready - nor likely is your mind.

Fisting releases a flood of endorphins (natural pain killers) in the guy being
fisted. Fisting enthusiasts report an overwhelming and often emotional experience
of enormous pleasure. There is also a feeling of intense intimacy by the very
nature of the immensity of the penetration and the trust involved.

If you are venturing into fisting, or curious, there are important things for
you to know. You can have a wonderful experience if you approach fisting with
knowledge and care...

Safety First!

Communication between partners is perhaps the most critical element to a successful
fisting experience. The insertive partner must pay very close attention to the
receiver and always proceed very slowly. Many fisters will suggest that one
not attempt to fist someone else until they have been fisted themselves, but
others find this unnecessary with the right, communicative partner.

Do not be goal-focused. Focus on the process; how far you get is much less
important and is dependent on many thins (experience, degree of relaxation,
size of hand and general health).

Proceed with care. The entrance to the rectum (asshole) has many nerve endings,
but beyond that (rectum/colon) there are not, so feedback is not the same.

Move slowly. if moving too fast, pain may be felt as can a rectal spasm, which
is very unpleasant. Remember to continually communicate; let your partner know
what you're feeling. If you're doing the fisting, remember to ask him!

Prepare. Always use lots of lube and add to it frequently. More on this next
in Materials.

Materials

Cleaning Out Equipment: either a standard enema bag or an enama attachment
on your shower head. Lots of Lubricant (more on this later). It is very unlikely
for HV to be transmitted through fisting. Using latex gloves lowers this risk.
Gloves are recommended when:

  • the top has any nicks, cuts or abrasions on his hand(s)
  • more than one guy is being fisted in a session - in which case tops should
    put on new gloves for each new ass.

Clean sex toys, if these are being used before the fisting session to help
relax and loosen up.

A prepared play space that ensures that the participants are comfortable. The
space should be warm (fisting can result in the fisting recipient feeling chilled).
Drinking water should be handy. Desired lighting and music.

Physical Preparations

Insertive Partner (top)

  • Ensures that his fingernails are short and filed smooth. If not using gloves,
    ensures his hand(s) are free of any cuts, nicks or abrasions.

Receptive Partner (bottom)

  • Has fully "cleaned out" the large colon of fecal matter with enemas.
    Fecal matter can cause abrasions and infections. Use plain water in enemas,
    warm not hot. If using a "shower shot", use very low pressure; avoid
    if water pressure or temperature varies. (a "shower shot" is a nozzle
    that attaches to the shower head, with a hose used for rinsing out). Take
    lots of time to clean.
  • In the 18-36 hours prior to play, avoid foods that bind up the colon (dairy
    products, meats) and eat more fruits, veggies and high fibre. Eat bananas
    to keep your potassium up (potassium is lost through repeated enemas).
  • Eats lightly on the day of play. Food takes 12 hours to reach the colon,
    so cut back on large food intake 12-14 hours prior.
  • Practices relaxation exercises and/or uses toys (dildos, buttplugs) to loosen
    up in preparation for the fisting session.

Lubrication

Proper lubrication is critical to a successful fisting experience. You cannot
use too much lube! Here are some things to know about lube ...

The most popular fisting lube is Crisco (oil-based). J-lube (water based) is
a lubricant used by veterinarians in calf delivery. It is becoming popular and
is fully safe to use with latex. J-lube comes as a powder and you mix it yourself
with water to the desired consistency. Use lots of lube!

If more than one person is being fisted during a session, make sure that each
person has their own lube container to prevent any cross-contamination. Also
ensure that the"tops" are utting on new gloves or washing thoroughly
before moving from fisting one ass to fisting another!

Remember that oil-based lubes (such as Crisco) break down latex condoms. So
if you fuck after fisting, use a water-based lubricant such as J-lube for your
fisting session.

Hanky Code

Fisting enthusiasts often use a hanky code to signal their desire to other
like-minded men. The hanky worn by fisters is red.

When worn in the left hip pocket, a red hanky lets you know the wearer is a
fisting "top", that is, an insertive fister.

When worn in the right hip pocket, the red hanky signifies that the wearer
is a fisting "bottom", that is, a receptive fister.

Drug Use

Avoid them! Using recreational drugs during fisting presents a major risk to
health. Fisting requires significant ability to focus and concentrate on what
is being experienced and felt - and the ability to communicate that information
to your partner; drugs reduce this ability.

Also, some drugs (such as crystal meth) can embolden a person to go further
than they otherwise would and at the same time deaden their pain sensations.
This combination is dangerous!

Medical Issues

Tearing of anal tissues can result from sharp edges, so trimmed and filed fingernails
are a must.

Colon perforation can occur from very deep fisting done without care, or from
improper use of rigid dildos, as the colon wall is thin and does not have pain
receptors. This can lead to peritonitis and death if not dealt with by a hospital
immediately.

Significant amounts of blood may indicate a colon perforation. If this occurs,
get to a hospital without delay. A fever after play may also indicate a perforated
colon requiring immediate medical attention.

Fisting utilized the following resources:

  • The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men
  • Trust, The Hand Book
  • The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex
  • www.gayhealth.com
  • HIV Transmission Guidelines (Health Canada)