It's Complicated: Dating Can Be Queer

It’s Complicated: A Discussion Series (FREE)
Dating comes with its own complications, but what happens when you add gender and sexual fluidity into the mix? Join our panel who are forging new kinds of relationships, and take part in the discussion about how to navigate dating and relating in the 21st Century.
This event is free and will include looking at our perspectives and definitions, upending assumptions to help us better understand ourselves and our community. An intriguing mix of facilitators will get the conversation started, but where it goes from there is up to you.


June 28th, 5pm to 7pm @Royal BC Museum
675 Belleville Street, Victoria, British Columbia V8W 9W2


Facilitators :

Macayla is a Cantonese settler, born and raised on the unceded homelands of the WSÁNEĆ and Lekwungen Peoples. They love mangoes, ferns, plantain chips, and trying to keep things simple. However, as a human being, life is complicated, and as an asexual person of colour, relationships can be even more so. Macayla is grateful, though, for all the connections she has built with solidarity and care. As part of the queer community, Macayla works at the 2-Spirit, Queer, and Trans Youth Drop-in (, offers workshops, volunteered with UVic Pride, created an Ace/Aro meet-up group, and facilitated an Ace/Aro discussion at a queer sexual health symposium. In their free time, Macayla tends to be embroidering or visiting the ocean.

Piotr Burek is a prairies transplant living in Victoria for the last 7 years. Having tested HIV positive nearly a decade ago, Piotr navigates the complex waters of dating and romance with an understanding that encapsulates the complexities of living with a criminalized and stigmatized health condition. His work in the community focuses on queer masculinities, anti-criminalization and harm reduction, specifically in the contexts of HIV. He currently sits as the chair of the Vancouver Island Persons Living with HIV/AIDS Society, works at various social service providers and throws incredible no-pants dance parties with the PLUR Collective. He envisions a world based on compassion and respect, where everyone has access to fulfilling and healthy romantic, platonic and sexual relationships. He is also currently single, so don't be shy, ask him out on a date if it suits your fancy.

Marshall Kilduff is a fat, polyamorous, homoflexible, trans man. Marshall was born and raised in the Western Communities of so-called Greater Victoria, as a settler on a variety of unceded lands of the Coast Salish people. When he is not travelling the world doing tech support and consultation on medical device development, Marshall works and volunteers on a number of research and community-based projects in queer and trans health advocacy. His passions include community-building, social justice, personal growth, learning, healing, laughing, playing, holistic approaches to healthcare, sex-positivity, body-positivity, anarchy, and loving up his cats and partners. Given the above circumstances, Marshall faces many unique challenges when pursuing new potential romantic or sexual interests and when being pursued.